What might just seem like a harmless non-preference for people of your own race may really just be the result of internalized self-racism.Īpparently as Asians, we are, as a collective, small, meek and effeminate. But having been fed stereotypes about Asian men time after time, it’s not hard to put two and two together. Maybe it’s unfair of me to assume what you mean when you say you’re not into Asian men. But too often, Asians are as guilty as anyone in refusing to see Asian men as sexual partners. Nor should we feel obligated to constrain our options to Asian men.
If anything, we’re likelier than other groups to give them a chance. I’m not saying that Asians alone are guilty of rejecting Asian men. Usually the response would be a non-answer: silence, a topic change or “I don’t know, I’m just not into them.” Which begs the question: why? I sometimes ask that aloud. “I’m not into Asian men.” I can attribute this quote to several friends and acquaintances, and the funny thing is, many of them were Asian.
